We had a wonderful 4 day weekend. We went to Disney World with some great friends from NY and had a blast. Disney is a great way for us to spend family time together, it is a way for us to unwind, to have lots of fun, have some great food and get A LOT of exercise.
We had a very busy weekend. Got to visit with our cousins that we have not seen in a while, it was so nice to spend time together and to watch the kids play the day away, they all get along wonderfully. My daughter got to spend time with her Godmother, and got to be outside all day. My son got to spend the day with his favorite friend and cousin.
April 14 would have been my Grandmother’s 83rd birthday, she has been gone for a year now and I honestly believed that her passing might bring everyone closer together. I believe that family is so important, it is a shame that so many of my family members don’t seem to want anything to do with anyone. They have let years and years go by pretending that they do not need one another, it is something that I wish I could fix but I do not have the power to do so. It just makes me so sad that my children have so many extended family members many of whom they have never even met.
I know that my cousin and I are going to make an effort to get together more, to get our children together more, because in the end, family is all you really have in this life.
So I spent the day out with my son yesterday and met with a friend I have not seen in a while, it was great fun and very much needed. We are also in full baptism planning mode, invitations are made by yours truly and addressed and ready to send. Dress is purchased, decorations purchased (some, most I am making myself) I can’t wait for everyone to be able to meet my little princess. Hope everyone had a fabulous weekend, mine was busy just like I like them to be.
Recipe For A Happy Marriage Poem
4 cups of Love
2 cups of Loyalty
Dash of Faith
3 cups of Kindness
4 cups of Understanding
1 cup of Friendship
5 spoonfuls of Hope
1 barrel of Laughter
Pinch of Forgiveness (no substitutions)
Dash of Thoughtfulness (not optional)
Take love and loyalty and mix thoroughly with faith.
Blend in kindness and understanding, add friendship and hope.
Sprinkle abundantly with laughter. Garnish with forgiveness and thoughtfulness.
Bake with sunshine.
Serve daily with generous helpings.
Someone gave me this poem for my bridal shower back in 2002. At the time I thought it was nice, now that I look at it today, it is very true and everyone that is married should live by it. My husband and I have had our ups and downs, we have gotten through a lot in our marriage, most of which we thought we never could. Getting through the birth of our daughter and her surgery was probably one of hardest things we have ever experienced in our lives. With lots of hope, faith and love we got through it together. So give your hubby or wife an extra hug or kiss or both today, let them know you care. Happy Saturday everyone.
I had a hard time with this blog, trying to figure out what exactly to write about, Friends? Family? or both? So I decided to write about the one person in my life who is both my friend and my family, my husband. Kevin and I met when I was 21, just finishing up college, just out of a not so good for me reltionship and there he was. We met in an AOL chat room, we talked on the phone for about a week and then we decided to meet. At the time I was attending college in Manhattan, so I was thinking about where we could meet, well you couldn’t get any more “public” than Manhattan so we agreed to meet in front of the Disney Store on 5th avenune, I almost chickened out, almost didn’t show up. Anyway I am thankful that I did show up, he was so soft spoken, so kind, so nice. He had never been to the city before and I could tell he was a little overwhelmed. We went to the bookstore to get the rest of my books for that semester, and found a little diner to have lunch in, it was so nice I felt like I had known him all my life. We hugged each other goodbye that day and made a date for the next day, from that moment on we spent every moment we could together.
He asked me to marry him on Christmas Eve 4 years later. On March 16 we got married surrounded by all our friends and family, it was a wonderful day and the best wedding I have ever been to.
Kevin is my best friend I can’t imagine what my life would have been like without him, he works so hard for us and our family and I appreciate each and everything he does. He is the best father to our children and I couldn’t have asked for a better man. He plays with our son, his weekends are devoted to both kids, he is just wonderful. When we had our daughter he was my rock, my shoulder to cry on and he was there for me and I so couldn’t have done it without him. Our life has not been all daisies and roses, we have had some heartache and hardships, but through it all we have been there for each other and have loved one another. So thanks Kev for giving me a family I adore and being the friend that I need, I love you.
I guess it has been a few days since I have blogged. Sorry about that folks, I know you are just sitting on pins and needles waiting for the next installment of life according to me. To be honest things have been just the way I like them, very quiet.
I realized today how thankful I am for my parents, they have helped us so much in the past 4 months, if it wasn’t for them I would have had to deal with everything in the hospital by myself, but because of them my husband was able stay in the hospital with me, they gave us that special time together with our daughter and I will never be able to repay them or thank them enough for that. They have helped us in so many ways, I cannot thank them enough.
My dad is there for me so much, and I thank God for him each and every day, he has helped me so much this school year, I will never be able to repay him.
Sometimes you don’t realize how much your parents truly love you, but it is during those times when they really step up to the plate and help you in ways you couldn’t possibly imagine, that you realize how much you mean to them, how much your husband means to them and how much your children mean to them.
So I hope this Christmas you will show those that you love how much they mean to you, don’t just tell someone you care, show them through your help, your actions.
So my cousin Jen and I grew up together. We are 11 months apart and did everything together as children, she was and still is the sister I never had and a true friend to me. Funny thing we realized is that my son and her daughter are also 11 months apart, and the two of them are kindred spirits, from the moment they met they were best of friends. It is so nice to see our families growing together and to share it all with each other. So on today December 16, I wish my cousin Jen a most wonderful and happiest of birthdays. You deserve the best, so I hope you enjoyed your birthday and here’s to many many more. With much love and admiration, your cousin and friend always.
When you are a child you make friends at school and you are very fortunate as am I if you keep those same friends into adulthood. When you are an adult, your kids choose your friends for you and again I was very lucky that my son made friends with a boy whose mom and I have become great friends. I usually make friends with people who are my complete opposite, I think they tend to bring out the “fun” in me.I am the quiet and shy type, always have been and always will be unless you really get to know me and what I am about, then I open up and can talk your ear off. I am the person that people almost ALWAYS refer to as a bitch, because I am quiet. I assure you I am not any such thing, actually I am the sweetest, nicest, best friend you will ever have if you just give me a chance and the time. I know who I am and it always amazes me when people who don’t know me refer to me as a snob or bitchy,and honestly I don’t think I could be those things if I even tried. Well maybe if you treat my kids like crap or make rude comments about them, well then my Bitchy Attitude will emerge, most definitely. I am extremely creative and giving and like to make wonderful gifts for friends and family, so once you tell me you like something be sure you are going to get some sort of a gift in the very near future that is both crafty and thoughtful. I guess if someone asked me on a job interview, you know those ridiculous questions they like to ask you ” Name some of your faults” I would have to answer that with a “Well Sir or Madame, I think too much.” Okay so maybe I wouldn’t say it like that but you get the idea. I think about people, I think about what I can do to make their lives a little easier, I think about things I can do at birthdays and Christmas time to make them feel important. It’s a vicious cycle this thinking too much, once I do something special then I start to feel bad, like I have now backed that person into a corner, now they must feel that they have to do something nice for me because of the something nice I did for them and that is not my intention at all. I guess I blame my mother for this feeling I get, although she meant well and was only telling me what she was taught. My whole life she always told me not to announce things to people, like birthdays, engagements, having baby’s because then it looks like you are looking for a hand out, nothing a few years of therapy for me won’t cure. So thinking is not always a good idea, I wish I could live in the moment, the here and now, the spur of the moment, do things because it feels right and stop thinking so damn much.
I live in a family where there are some serious meanies, they will say one thing to your face and then rip you apart behind your back, but that’s a whole other blog topic I could go on about for hours, so I guess I am just used to having my guard up.Sometimes I think my passive behavior also allows people to take advantage of me, assuming I will always be there, but never put the effort in to be there for me. But it definitely does beg the question, maybe I am guilty of this as well. Maybe I haven’t been a very good friend to people either, maybe I have let life and all it’s crap get in the way of keeping and growing my friendships, I am sure I am guilty of this as well. Having something traumatic happen in your life kind of puts things in perspective ya know? This year I want to make more of an effort to keep in touch with my friends, to make the effort to see them more. I have a problem with calling people, I am getting better though I think, I always feel like I am bothering someone when I call them, like they have better things to do then to chat with me on the phone. I almost always feel like I am intruding on people, I have this idea engraved in my head, probably since I was a child that I should never be a burden to anyone, and I guess I take that message that I was taught at a very early age, extremely literally. I know I must stop feeling that way and I try believe me I do. So I will try to be a better friend this year and I hope everyone else will do the same.